In what seems to be a blink of an eye, the time has come. Your child is soon off to university! But what university? Where will they go? How far away will they be? Although you had 18 years to prepare for this moment, you probably still have a lot of questions when it comes to helping your child choose the right university to ensure a happy and fulfilling future.
So, as a starting point, we鈥檝e put together these 5 tips to help guide conversations and decision-making with your high school graduate!
There鈥檚 a lot of new information your student will have to absorb in the months leading up to their university applications (on top of their high school workload), so starting the conversation early is key. Early conversations provide more time to explore your student鈥檚 interests and options; to make sure they鈥檙e succeeding in their high school courses and meeting the admission requirements of prospective universities (and getting the proper support if not); and ensure that application deadlines are met in terms of admissions and scholarships.
Of course, there is a fine line to balance here: you don鈥檛 want to force your student to have a conversation they鈥檙e not ready for, but you do want to make sure they鈥檙e thinking of their future and all of their options.
If your student hasn鈥檛 already brought up the idea of attending university, gently start the conversation by letting them know that you鈥檙e there to listen, support, and guide if necessary. If they鈥檙e receptive to the conversation, you can start with the basic questions such as have you given any thought to what you want to do after high school?
Once you feel your student is ready, try taking them through the 5 questions you should ask before applying to college or university.听
We鈥檝e already mentioned this point (and will continue to reiterate throughout this blog), but we think it鈥檚 so important that it deserves to stand on it鈥檚 own.
When all is said and done, it鈥檚 your student who will be living out the next 3-4 years at university. It鈥檚 your student who will be doing the work, making new friends, joining societies and mapping out their career. It鈥檚 your student who will be finding their fit, wherever it is they may choose to study. So, try taking a step back and truly listen to what they want. Their happiness and overall mental well-being will amplify their chance for success within the classroom!
When talking to your student about university, remember that it is their decision first and foremost. Recognize this as a stepping stone into adulthood, where they will be faced with many decisions to make that are sometimes difficult.
Be there to support, but mostly, listen.
Once you鈥檝e started the postsecondary conversation with your student and listened to their wants and needs, it鈥檚 beneficial to do your own research (within their given boundaries) in order to have a better understanding of what options meet these needs. There may be universities and opportunities that fulfil your student鈥檚 goals personally and academically that they have not yet thought of. And, if you don鈥檛 agree with your child鈥檚 choices, doing some research may help you better understand their choice and stand behind them with support.
More to this point: university programs, supports, and processes may have changed since you were a prospective student. So, researching will help make sure you and your student are both on the same page in terms of options, language, and so on.
All of this might sound a bit tedious, but the good news is you鈥檙e already conducting research just by reading this blog, so this is a great start! Other sources of information are the university鈥檚 website, our Domestic viewbook (or alternatively, our International viewbook or Unama’ki College viewbook), reviews on social media, or even talking to your own networks for a word-of-mouth recommendation. Keep open minded while doing your research, make it broad, and remember, focus on what your student wants.听听
Education is an investment with a huge return, and there are a number of things to think about and discuss with your student before they choose a university. First of all, are you planning on contributing financially to their tuition and fees? If so, how much are you able to afford?
Once you openly discuss whether or not you鈥檙e able to support your student financially, next steps will become evident, such as narrowing down their list of potential universities to fit your budget, and/or looking into scholarship opportunities, financial aid and student loan programs. You can also speak to your student about work-study bursaries and programs, or the possibility of studying part-time while gaining paid work experience.
Overall, set expectations up front. If your student has their heart set on a university outside of your price range, make sure they understand their other options in terms of payment, and provide support when it鈥檚 time to apply for scholarships and/or student loans.听听
After your student has created a short-list of potential universities, it鈥檚 extremely beneficial to take them to visit each campus on their list (if they鈥檙e not too far away). Campus tours allow your student to picture themselves on campus first-hand, visualizing what it would be like to be a student at the university. It also gives you and your student the chance to meet some of the faculty and staff working on campus, ask specific questions, and get a feel for the overall campus culture and safety. After your campus tour, you can also scope out the surrounding city if it鈥檚 outside of the area where you currently live.
Prior to your campus visit, help your student do some extra research on the institution you鈥檙e scouting, and compile a list of questions to ask.
If any of the campuses on your student鈥檚 list are not within reasonable travel distances, look to see if they have virtual campus tours, or check out their for pictures and videos. 听
Start the conversation about your child鈥檚 post-secondary journey early. Listen, listen, listen to what they want out of their studies. Then, research within these boundaries, perhaps pointing out opportunities they may not have known about or thought of. Be honest and open about finances, and support them with application processes. And lastly, if possible, accompany them on campus tours (if that鈥檚 what they want).